It’s My Pleasure

By April 15, 2021 October 29th, 2022 Food for thought, Heather

I found this article over the weekend and wanted to share it because I feel it’s a helpful reminder to look at how words really matter. Just as simple as whether your glass is half empty or half full, it’s how you look at it. I am confident that we all want to have the best conversations and outcomes with ourselves and our customers every day. Sometimes, it’s tough. 

Whether it’s disagreeing on solutions to problems or working with people who have problems they expect us to solve, how we frame it up and serve it back can have more likely positive outcomes simply by what we say. 

A couple weeks ago, Tai found an article from our guy Dennis Snow about removing the response ‘No problem’ from our vocabulary and since she shared that, I catch myself all the time. It’s a forced habit, just like other phrases we use generally. I was in Mexico last January, and I remember the pattern of all our fantastic server staff. Every time I thanked them for something kind, they all responded with the same phrase, ‘My pleasure” and I thought each time, ‘how peculiarly sweet. I wonder who directs their communication here?’ It sounds so much more genuine than my usual, ‘no problem’. 

I pasted the article below so you don’t have to leave the Vault, yet put the full link to it at the bottom. These are simple phrases to daily common situations we all face and where to replace them. I think my favorite to eliminate is. ‘I know you’re busy but….’ 

The article from Fast Company on the words we use: 

Good leaders spend a fair amount of time refining their communication style. After all, good communication skills are not only among the most in-demand soft skills; they’re also essential for fostering strong relationships with team members, being a more effective negotiator, and being able to motivate people.

So, the words you use matter. And simple verbal habits or tics can actually get in the way of clear communication. But some of the things we say can improve how we are perceived as well. Saying “sorry” too much and for the wrong reasons might undermine how confident you appear. Shifting your response from “sorry for the delay” to “thanks for your patience” strikes a more positive tone, too.

Another example that we’ve covered before at Fast Company is the word “but,” which can seem like you’re negating the point of the person with whom you’re speaking. Instead, try substituting “and,” which invites further conversation.

What other communication swaps can you make to be a more powerful communicator? Here, three communication experts weigh in with their recommendations for language swaps. They may not work in every situation. But, when used appropriately, they can help shift your communication to be more powerful.


“Rather than saying ‘I can’t’ or ‘I’m not able to,’ when you’re declining a request, focus on the positive,” says communication expert Renée Evenson, author of Powerful Phrases for Effective Customer Service. Instead try, “Here’s what I can do for you.” That way, you’ve set a boundary with your client or colleague about what you’re not able or willing to do, but you’ve also indicated that you’re willing to find a workable solution.


When you don’t know something, it’s usually a good idea to say so instead of bluffing. However, if you’re in a leadership position or dealing with customers, the people asking are going to want more than that from you. Instead of just shrugging off the inquiry, say “I’ll find out for you,” Evenson suggests. “This gives [the person asking] an assurance that you care enough to go one step further to get the right answer,” she says.

CAN YOU . . .

It’s not uncommon to preface a favor request with “I know how busy you are . . .” or “I hate to bother you . . .” But that immediately puts you at a disadvantage because you’ve assumed that you’re creating a burden. Instead, assume there is not a problem and drop this from your language, Larsen says. Just ask for what you need and assume that the person will let you know if the request is too much and respectfully decline.


In a world filled with vague, wishy-washy words, “address” is one that public speaking coach Joel Schwartzberg would like to see dropped. “I see a lot of speakers say, we’re going to address this issue. What does that mean? That means they can write about it, talk about it, have dialogue, right? But that doesn’t specifically mean you’re going to solve that problem or take action,” says the author of Get to the Point: Sharpen Your Ideas and Make Your Words Matter. Instead of saying, “We’re going to address this situation . . . ” try words like solve, fight against, or reduce, which communicate action. Other swaps to consider that are more meaningful and decisive:

  • Instead of “allowed,” try enabled or authorized
  • Instead of “meeting” a goal or expectation, try accomplishing or exceeding
  • Instead of “reacting to” a situation, try responding or solving


For some people, dismissing praise is a knee-jerk response. If they receive a compliment, they water it down by saying, “It was nothing . . .” or “It could be better . . .” Those responses not only make light of your work and ability, but they are dismissive of the person giving the compliment. Instead, thank the individual genuinely and add, “I’m glad you like it,” Larsen says.


Telling someone to calm down is almost a guarantee that they will do anything but calm down. Larsen recommends validating the individual’s feelings and assuring them you understand. “I can see you are upset, and I want to help” is a better option.


There’s nothing wrong with saying “you’re welcome” when someone thanks you. But saying something like “I’m happy I was able to help you” is more powerful because it leaves a positive impression with the individual that you went the extra mile to help, Evenson says.

While simple shifts in language won’t solve all communication issues, being more precise and action-oriented in your language can make a difference in clarity and how you’re perceived.

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