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Why Game of Thrones is So Addictive To So Many

So think about this. Game of Thrones. Why is it so fascinating to the point of a full-on merchandising frenzy of money business? I admit I may have a few bottles of GOT wine, a blanket, couple glasses, shirts, a House Stark bathrobe, etc. Sure, it’s film mastery like any other amazing vision like Avatar to Lord of the Rings to Ole’ HP and the wands. Yet on HBO and almost 10X longer and epic than LOTR. The emotion of S6:09 Battle of the Bastards still terrifies me and awe inspires my adoration of cinematography keeps my eyes open as much as possible. Maybe it’s the script…or screenplay genius that is the powerful moments of greatness from our top players…
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March 27, 2019
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Accepting the New “Weak “- Shut Out The Mean Girl in Your Head

A lot of people are ashamed. Scared. Embarrassed. Too afraid to tell their story that brought them here today. I’ve done that all of my adult life. I felt the shame from people who knew little bits of my story back in high school and before I left town. With my head hung low. Why? Every. Single. Person. Every single person has a story. Sure, some are more graphic than others. More sad. More heartbreaking. More triumphant. More inspirational. It does not matter what size of mountain you climbed to overcome your own mind’s voice of doubt in yourself. What matters is that you climbed it and overcame it. And understand that just because you overcame that mountain doesn’t mean…
Heather
March 7, 2019
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What Your Children Teach You About Leaving Neverland

Sitting in a hotel room, two hours off my timezone and sleepless. Here's HBO with a new documentary. I'm curious. I didn't expect it to align with anything I'm already talking about. On the HBO documentary, Leaving Neverland, James Safechuck explains how his son is growing to the exact age that he was when Michael Jackson began abusing him in the early 90’s. He went over the emotions that realization caused him and he struggled. Wade Robson discusses this same phenomenon with his son, but it was triggered more at the point of fatherhood when his son was about 18 months old. The love of having a son and the innate need to protect him caused horrible mental pictures of…
Heather
March 5, 2019
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But Did You Die?

Today I found out I have a hole in my heart. I spent a week of wait for an echocradiogram after three weeks of figuring out the right blood pressure med for my new high blood pressure scare. The hole - It’s called a PFO. You can live with it. There’s a concern about blood clots passing through it and getting in the wrong stream but if I keep pumping in my blood pressure meds I should be fine. Translation: You're not going to die. I mean, I feel so much better. Not physically better. Still have the same new pain and breathing weird as before, but I feel better everywhere else. Cause I’m not going to effing die. This means,…
Heather
March 1, 2019
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Walmart is Gaining Ground on Becoming Amazon’s First Rival.

I think Walmart is gaining ground on Becoming Amazon’s First Rival.I ran to Walmart today because I wanted the cheapest copy I could get on Blu Ray for Office Space. And they had it. With Deadpool on the cover! For $5 no less. So Funny I went ahead and bought Castaway and Fight Club too. I already had Fight Club, but it's got Deadpool on the cover. For $5. The things that they now stock on their shelves, like the $8 lounge Pants for my man child that are an illusion that looks like my son has little legs and he’s on a bear’s shoulders. It’s also where I find the best cat shirts that Hot Topix and Amazon don’t…
Heather
March 1, 2019
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Yardscaping and Good Kids

Funny story really. My son’s friend was hanging out here the same time my parents from West Virginia were spending the weekend to visit. Well, it’s Sunday afternoon and they have their stuff packed by the door while we play one last game of train dominoes. So by their last trip to the car, three pairs of shoes sat there. I knew my stepmom was going to wear one of them back and a second pair were boots. Put the boots in a Kroger sack and noticed my Dad was already wearing a pair of shoes and put the black guy’s shoes in a sack. They head back to the mountains. About 45 minutes later, my son’s friend is looking…
Heather
February 24, 2019
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Reality vs. Really Good TV plus How the Bachelor Could be Better

There’s TV shows you can’t really double or triple screen with because you have to watch it. You might miss something. And you don’t want to miss something. You know, Game of Thrones, This is Us and Schitt's Creek to name a few. Sure, you might play a quick round of Words2, text someone back or check some snaps but generally, you watch them scene to scene. Then there’s the ones you kinda watch. Like, you can have them on-demand while you’re cooking dinner, or on your iPad while you’re working on your computer. You hear just enough and look up just enough to get the gist of what’s going on to hold your own if you talk to someone…
Heather
February 21, 2019
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Abandoned Cats In Suburbia. It’s a Catastrophe.

Early last fall a cat decided to go up under our deck and have kittens. It’s not our cat, but they were kittens none the less.  She tried to move them into the small wooded area behind our house, which is merely a tree line between backyard suburbia. We heard her screams and fighting but couldn’t find them – our neighbors have fences and don’t maintain their section of wood line like we do. They were back there somewhere. She returned, one kitten short. The kitten with the disfigured eye. He never came back. Sadly, this one was my favorite. We assume a possum (We found a mean one under our shed when looking for momma and her kittens) or…
Heather
February 10, 2019
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Why Sears is Out of Business

Had a free Saturday afternoon with the hubs and we ended up at the mall. Parked at Sears. Big signs hanging on it “Everything Must Go” and “Store Closing” Wow. Didn’t know that. We were going in that way anyway, so let’s check it out. They weren’t kidding, the place was loosely organized and there were things grouped like they were trying to hold the departments together. Great deals on the ellipticals and treadmills. They were even selling shelves, mannequins and racks. Here’s three reasons within 45 minutes that Sears became doomed. Everything must not go. So we worked our way downstairs to check out shoes and what not and right now, I care about baby stuff. I have a…
Heather
February 3, 2019
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Five Steps To Building Your Story Wall

I know we are all talking about Tidy Up, but that Sentiment stage – or the final stage where you dig out all of those boxes of pictures, awards, kids’ school papers, holiday cards, knick nacks etc. – that it’s ok to have a cluster or clutter of sentiments while still tidying up. What if we made a win-win-win where we create a behavioral shift from over spending on holidays on gift exchanges amongst everyone you like enough to suprise with a gift and cover your bases in case they did too while instead creating a place of things that spark joy in one concentrated place, and more importantly –displaying  a story worth sharing. I’m calling it Story Walls Here’s…
Heather
January 27, 2019
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The Secret Recipe Behind Tidy Up with Marie Kondo

So as I was sitting there refolding all of my clothes that still bring me joy (the proper way Marie Kondo demonstrated), I got to thinking. Why is this a sensation, why does it work and how do you apply this to all the other sensations that move the masses? It’s motivational, emotional and repetitively changing your old habits. While clearing out this heap of clothes on my bed and determining if piece by piece it brings me joy, I’ve found myself thanking them and putting it in the donation sack more frequently than I imagined I would. It makes you look at everything with a totally different perspective – emotional connectedness to things. What serves a purpose or used…
Heather
January 19, 2019
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Skin Theory

So I have a theory. I have no educational training or formal experience to back it up. Just my story to convince someone out there that does to check it out if you think it’s plausible. Think of all the new pills you can make! I think that moles after the age of 38 are actually the diarrhea of the skin. You'lll recognize yours by the cute little mole on her shoulder. Hear me out. Here’s my attempt at rational science-ishness and personal experiences to attempt at validating my theory. Similar to all the other organs you have, you know, let's pick your stomach* - which is a linchpin for a successful digestive system. But every part of the system…
Heather
January 17, 2019
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Mark Tears Down His Harley Davidson to Build Something Better

When a Harley starts burning oil, you have two choices. Find out why or ignore the burn and keep a fresh quart in your side bag. Mark’s was burning oil and it’s not that old. It’s a 2013 Street Glide, second owner and the first didn’t ride it a whole lot. I think it had maybe 5,000 miles on it when Mark bought it out of his barn a couple years ago. The burning has been something he keeps an eye on because he doesn't like it but knows it's a pricey repair. There’s a stigma about these bikes leaking oil. It’s accepted because it's just what a Harley does. (Talk about branding!) Mark was a Kawasaki loyalist for a…
Heather
January 16, 2019
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The Good Thing About Bourbon

Do you think people like the taste of bourbon because of how it actually tastes or because of the story on the bottle that is so good you accept their flavor better? I mean…. Nineteen Crimes made me a believer in dry, red Cabernet. Now I have developed the taste for it and love it, but it took practice.  I can’t even consider it cold, let alone a Rose. I giggle when I think I thought it was cool. And don’t worry ladies- I appreciate that you do. Enjoy the journey. I sure did. I’ll keep a sweet, cold one in my fridge…just in case you stop by. So what if bourbon is now the wine of men? When they…
Heather
January 8, 2019
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If the Red Cross is Reading This….

Red Cross I struggle with giving blood. Not the idea of giving it, the actual action of giving it. For reals. It takes a special Red Cross employee to get me flowing without trying and calling over others to help. I have gotten sick, had bruises for weeks, rashes... But I give.  I give 2-3x per year. Yep. I’m a Type O Hero! Every year, my favorite community facilitator, Emily Davis McElroy tells me, "Please just make cookies. It's ok. This is traumatic for me to watch". Aside from doing the most badass part of the magic sauce donation process that is called Red Cross volunteering,  I also love the convenient check-in app that tells you exactly what hospital received…
Heather
January 8, 2019
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Marwencol: Why The Guardian Gives Me Hope

I genuinely appreciate the truth in this headline by The Guardian. Marwencol: the incredible WWII art project created by a cross-dresser who was beaten up by bigots This poor artist who was beaten wasn't injured by a race, gender, career status, political preference, religion... because it doesn't matter what any of those details are. Most of our media have been loosely focused on journalism writing and more focused on PR/Creative writing skills to find leverage that helps push an agenda beyond stating the unbiased facts and letting the world decide. That headlines could have been rewritten in so many ways to push an agenda. Imagine the channel or website that would have possibly said it one of these ways: Marwencol:…
Heather
December 28, 2018
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Top Five Christmas Gifts for Older Kids

I'd like to begin by saying the results are in. They've been carefully tabulated by office rant sessions, the Christmas party adult circuit, random neighbors, people waiting in long lines to check out next to you... oh and the occasional Kroger run-ins with acquaintances. How many of you have had the colorful conversations that begin with asking your kids, "What do you want for Christmas this year?" or "What can I tell grandma you want for Christmas this year?" Here's the top five teen responses for Christmas wishes this year, in order. "Uhhhh, how about an Amazon gift card?" "Steam card"  (And if you tell someone a Steam card, you get the pleasure of explaining what the hell that is)…
Heather
December 21, 2018
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5 Ways To Appreciate Ohio Winters

Let's face it. We all wish we could be snow birds but if you're in the thick of life that includes work, school and a mortgage - you have to find the bright side when you truly despise the hard, cold, dark winter months. So how can you look at that proverbial cup as half full (of snow) versus half empty? Here's my top five. 1.When you get groceries, you can accidentally forget them in the trunk. 2.  Your garage becomes the fridge, only bigger. Perfect for those holidays parties or a great deal at Costco.  3. The snow will hide all the leaves and dog poo you didn't get time to clean up. 4. It's not as cold as Iowa.…
Heather
November 29, 2018
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What’s Love Got To Do With It?

I get asked a lot about love. I know people who have amazing relationships, tolerable ones, rough ones and some – nothing significant at all. My hope for everyone in the world is that you are able to give and receive unconditional love. I am not sure that immediately happens. Instant attraction? Yes. Instant chemistry? Definitely. But unconditional takes time, commitment and desire. Again and again and again. It’s ok to have someone in your life that you can like for a hundred different reasons. Personality. Sense of humor. Kindness. Intelligence. Perspective on life. Similar interests. Great. If there’s a twinge of doubt in your gut, heart or mind – explore it. Figure out why. Anytime I hear, “But he’s…
Heather
November 18, 2018
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Keeping Your Vote Valid. So Your Vote Really Matters.

  I wanted to share a post an old colleague pal (He's not old, we just don't work together anymore) wrote about why ethical, legit voting matters and why we should not stand by and accept tampering of any kind by any side. Preach John. Here's his post:   Be Concerned. By John Blabaum, managing partner at Wax Xtatic Record Audio Stereo Shop "Whether you are on the right, the left, extreme left, extreme right, or in the middle.....YOU as an American Citizen and voter should be very concerned about Florida, Arizona, and other places where vote counting has turned into a charade, if not a crime. Our votes are a sacred trust, with one vote counting just that. Allowing those…
Heather
November 13, 2018
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My Values, Connected to Stress if Breached

Identifying the physical reactions in your body that are tied to anxiety or stress is key to diminishing the chaos swirling within your body.  When I start getting upset with someone, or a situation, it’s because they did something that hit me wrong. If something shocks you, upsets you, angers you, worries you, scares you... the longer it's allowed to manifest in your mind and get playback reviews over and over until you're sick - you have to get to the root of it. If you don't understand why, you can't process it or justify it so that you can move on and preserve your health. So what are the things that I value and need? By identifying them through…
Heather
November 8, 2018
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American Horror Story Review

American Horror Story. Seasons 1 - forever. These writers cause me to salivate on their artistic screenplay among a "what if" scenario of what humans are capable of if it were to happen (or already possibly did) I cannot handle violence, abuse or make you flinch horror. So why am I in awe of AHS? It is dialogue genius. From the best arguments, debates, discussions and manipulations - the story writing of characters is almost as awe inspiring as the actors portraying them. Sometimes I think it works better and better because everyone on both sides of the stage have learned one another and built a solid crew. I love the homage to amazing soundtracks and weaving of one season…
Heather
October 9, 2018
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Oh Hey, Boss… Two Kinds of Bosses. What are the Odds?

When you have to report to someone else, have someone else dictate their work life and goals, let you know if you’re allowed to leave…you know, another rung up the ladder – you’ve got a boss. It’s ok to have a boss. I have a boss. Even if you become your own boss you still have all the people who are paying for what you do as your boss. I read that once. Anyway, You know working up is exactly that. You’re working up. Working up the chain to either learn everything you can or make a lot of money or both and get better perks. Then either start your own, leave and move up again or retire early. (Well…
Heather
October 9, 2018
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Oh Hey, I’m Heather and We Will Disappoint Each Other

Sure, you don't mean to. Everyone begins any discussion with the best intentions. I know I will not intentionally hurt or disappoint anyone. But it will happen. You will be disappointed. It will happen to my colleagues, coworkers and clients. More importantly, it will happen to my family. My spouse. My children. My parents. My brothers. On and On. Funny part, is many of those mentioned all blur together. I have friends I consider clients. Family I call coworkers my children in this thing called running a chore filled home. You get it. And all of them will disappoint me, if they haven't already. How you value the relationship and feel about their character identifies how you decide to handle…
Heather
October 2, 2018
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Shameless Season 8 Episode 10

This episode tells all. 1. She didn't have to show her boobs. 2. She's watched all her children grow up in their special shameless grown yet awesome gift of success. Lip the Mind. Ian the Gift. Carl the Domesticated crazy trust fund girl hubby. Debbie the hard working bad ass hot welder looking for any way to pay for school. Liam, learning a cleaner hustle than they did with Frank. And it keeps him busy. 3. This episode made me tear up three times, laugh a couple and feel heartfelt authenticity the whole time. 4. It has an awesome Fiona and V chat on the stairs. Endearing BFFs catching up.   I haven't felt this much feels since the episode…
Heather
September 22, 2018
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Guns, Trump, #MeToo and knees. Why not? Let’s do this.

I have a few things to say to anyone and everyone who is on one side or another of a very divided country. You're making us vulnerable to the entire world - or at least those who give a shit and are watching,  planning their attack. Our global PR needs a major refresh and has for some time. The more we allow ourselves to lie, twist, fake news, attack, bully, become violent and go after our leadership - the more we end up getting more of what we have no understanding of - a deficit of American Pride. We have all lived in a free country our entire lives. We don't know what it's like not to. To us, freedom…
Heather
September 19, 2018
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What’cha been up to lately? How You Doing?

How do you answer that?  Don't worry. This isn't one of those motivational stories that are gonna help you love yourself more. I mean, yeah, you should but that's not what this about. I'll quit hugging myself and get to the point. This is the worst question I get asked. It's a robotic greeting sub sentence because ended a cheerful greeting/bump in (especially in a small community) because simply saying ,"Hello" and having that awkward, hesitation pause of "Okay, who's going first?" would happen and then you'd have to say something creative. Some people will even add that third...or when very exited to see someone you actually would like to prioritize time to see them more often. "Oh Hey!!!! Oh…
Heather
September 18, 2018
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Greatly Done Shows and Movies Streaming with Some Okay Parts

Shameless. I. Love. Shameless. There is something about how it stirs a full range of different emotions within you because of the amazing acting talent living out a genius script of the human strength to persevere when driven to win at any cost in a local anarchy zone of city poverty. These kids, neighbors and odd friends they pick up season to season - they all are united because they all got dealt a shit hand of their own and persevere with the same hustle and sweat to get out of there. They will get dirty if that's what it takes and they will be loved unconditionally enough to have no fear in finding out who they are and why…
Heather
September 17, 2018
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20 Things that Prove #Adulting is Worth it.

Sure, we all say #Adulting is real and hard. We laugh at ourselves by posting selfies that tell people we did something that we didn't want to do but we had to because, well, we had to.  But at what point is hashtag adulting actually a good thing that you are proud of? Let's be honest.  If oversharing daily tasks that suck is more fun than the cool things you get to do because of the sucky tasks, maybe it's time to reevaluate why being all grown up is no different than any stage of your life so far. You have to do things you don't like to get the freedom to enjoy the things you do like.  So if…
Heather
September 8, 2018
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Why We Need to Appreciate Memorial Day… Every Day

What is Freedom, Anyway? Thanks to the bravery of our soldiers, we have freedom to be America. We’ve maintained this freedom for more than 200 years and therefore don’t have the experience to know what it’s like not to have it. For our individual freedoms, it's a feeling we pursue for personal gratification. For many, the “freedom” we desire represents things we believe provide us much more satisfaction in our lives. For example, it’s wanting to retire as soon as possible, win the lottery or work hard to earn more. My Dad proudly serving in Vietnam, came home safely. For the many that did not, we honor them today. We want the freedom to own our time and have the…
Heather
May 25, 2018
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Hey Heather, What’s Your Deal…For Real?

The drive, motivation and gratitude that fuels Oh Hey Heather Each entry is purposely shuffled out of ranking order Family, Family, Family I hear so many stories about in-law drama or families that don't come together after their kids are married. I can't say enough about the family I gained when I married Mark. And I know he says the same about mine. We are so very fortunate to have everyone be considerate and caring towards each other. Oh - and fun. Faith, Faith and more Faith. Reading news and hearing podcasts about the monsters out there hurting other people is so scary and horrific. Advocating to make it stop is a very large passion of mine but I don't…
Heather
April 19, 2018
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Oh Hey Heather…Helping People Use Words Better Since 1995

Ok. So why launch a web company? Better yet, why launch a web company for t-shirts when you have another business idea every other week and a really cush, fun position with the best team anyone could ask for?  'Cause you're welcome. See, I appreciate a good-hearted, funny t-shirt. The ones that make you laugh out loud or say, "Now that's funny. I'm ordering that". But here's the deal. I like them enough to know from several online purchases after serious research and obviously bogus reviews - most of them are a waste and disappointment. They're rough, don't fit right, shrink weird, cracks in the printed piece. No. I am not paying $25 bucks for a well-rated-four-or-five-star-Amazon-fulfilled shirt that arrives…
Heather
April 11, 2018
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Cleaning Out the Closet – an Analogy of Clutter

If you’re trying to clean your room, you start by picking up the clutter, then you can sweep the last of the dust. It’s layers. You also have to identify what the clutter is.  Sometimes, when you pick up all the things that don’t belong in that room it doesn’t mean its trash. It may just be misplaced in where it should be kept.  Like legos on the coffee table or shoes in the kitchen for example.  Or, for this analogy – an emotion -let’s say anger. I think it’s absolutely human to feel anger but how long you store it and where you put it and who sees it can make it quickly become a bad thing. No one is…
Heather
April 10, 2018
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Reasons are Optional

Sometimes my brain is so overloaded with thoughts, lists, “I should haves” and fabulous intentions that I find myself frozen. Staring blankly as if in a frazzled state. Getting nothing accomplished but self-loathing and procrastination.  It’s been much worse lately. It’s embarrassing and SO out of character for me. This picture of Teresa helps visualize what I catch myself doing lately: Blank Stare Is it too much to do? Not really. I’ve had longer lists than these before. Is it depression? I don’t think so. I feel pretty good about a lot of things. Is it daunting tasks? Things I don’t like to do? No, for the most part I like what I am doing. So why are there insecurities, self-doubt shrouding over…
Heather
April 10, 2018
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I Love Making Conversation with New People

It doesn’t get old to me. It’s not everyone – it’s not like I go down the street and try to talk to every single person I meet. That would be ridiculous and probably creepy. But when the situation happens, you know it. Where there’s this feeling internally that you kinda want to say something. Like last week. I was sitting in a waiting room at a bank in rural Ohio waiting to talk with a great CEO. I was early. I gave myself time in case I couldn’t find it, and turns out it was easy. I noticed walking in there was a hover round chair outside. The back was decorated with a small American Flag and a bag…
Heather
April 10, 2018
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Stuck in a Rut With an Unsightly Gut

In my third year battle to lose the exact same 20 pounds, I’ve been digging deep into myself to figure out why I don’t break through and get it off of me. I exercise more now than I have in years and am getting quite proud of myself. I know it’s not my output that the problem. It’s my input. But Why? What is that trigger in my brain that puts my willpower on auto pilot? I really like the taste of so many fruits and vegetables and even think I could quite possibly survive as a vegetarian (maybe). So why do I eat all the bad stuff? Why can’t I have just “a” beer? Why do I see a…
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April 10, 2018
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Aging Happens

Relocating to Ohio and finding myself only 2.5 hours from my original childhood area has been an enlightening experience. I’ve spent the past 20 years driving 13 hours to get there maybe (maybe) once a year and trying to cram all grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and their homes into 4-5 days. Living closer has opened that up infinitely. I’ve already been home more times in the past year than in the last decade. I gain longer sits on the porch. Longer conversations. I’ve even re-familiarized myself to many roads and use the GPS less and less. I get to start looking up old friends because I have more time there. I recall more memories and reflect on them. My Dad…
Heather
April 10, 2018
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Frickin’ Fracking

Last Sunday I was with Mark, the boys and my brother, Adam, hitting the road after a great weekend trip to West Virginia. The guys had a night in Pittsburgh, PA for our cousin’s bachelor party. I had helped with a bridal shower for his betrothed and the boys tagged along with me and camped out at my Dads for the night. All in all, a nice adventure. Having Adam fly in from Nashville to be a part of it was icing on the cake. (Bree! Ahhh move here please! Sorry, no pressure. Lol) When my son Landon insisted our lunch for the ride home not consist of food in a bag – he’s really starting to be aware of…
Heather
April 10, 2018