Perspective + Stories + ExperienceThese stories and experiences are my own and mine alone. The opinions and truths stated do not reflect any company that employs me for my skills. I hope my thoughts and ideas inspire more people to come up with their own individual thoughts and share them too. Truth wins and there's a freeing feeling when you can create your own voice to inspire laughs, joy and internal discovery.

Pandemic Thoughts

The Great Hate Challenge

I have learned a lot about people socially during this Covidiocy we are in.  I see a lot of opposing views and comments on social media, always have. These days I wonder if the work or stay home stress is causing it to be so much angrier. I just can't these days.  I've begun socially distancing myself from social media for the sake of sanity. I only like social these days when I see what people are up to or sharing stories about their family or something they are proud of. Now that's about 1/3 of it. There's another 1/3 that are thoughts, memes, articles, or statements that align with me and validate I'm not alone. The remaining 1/3 are people…
Heather
April 25, 2020
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Putting the ‘X’ in Anxiety

I wanted to take a walk. This wasn't my first walk since you know, this. But it was my first walk in a few days of possibilities to do it again. I used my yard as my physical activity lately with sunny, spring days. I just wanted a walk. Headspace. A good playlist as I Appreciate every clear, pain-free breath of fresh air. Or so I hoped. Then it became a jog and short cut back. Just go home, I thought. I'm a people pleaser, I get it. I'm the one that will go out of the way to ease someone else. That's not the issue. I totally take the high road so they don't have to. Some passerby’s are…
Heather
April 8, 2020
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Fabric Face Filters. Is this going to be a thing?

This is the third Saturday since it began. You know, the COVID, Corona, quarantine, stay the eff home stuff started and it continues to get weirder. We are now to the point where the guidance says you can wear a mask if it makes you feel better but really since all the front line people need them, you can get by with a scarf or anything really that could act as a filter. I'm still me. Following that distance stuff and no mask. What I noticed on my fast trips to the kroger or like today, the first warm and sunny Saturday in April - Home Depot now has a clicker guy and a line to get on the roller…
Heather
April 4, 2020
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The Only Employee Who Should Fear Being Let Go

I keep reading all of these fear-inducing articles about what employees should fear losing their jobs right now – entry-level, duplicate duties, overpaid managers…. Look, I fully get that in a grim and gloom world, that’s a natural assessment of the weakest links who shouldn’t get a rose to move on to another week of reality. Sure, maybe this is the excuse your boss needed for some time to dismiss those types of employees who fit within the above stereotypes, but I'd call that a preexisting condition that affects the virus. Those employees you questioned in the past, the ones dodging confrontation before all this happened.   Yet now that they’re roots are showing, in this all-hands-on-deck test of the…
Heather
March 31, 2020
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Signs, Signs Everywhere are Signs

Signs make things official. A sign makes a rule. A rule sets an expectation for the readers to follow. Signs Help Us We use signs as décor within our homes and landscaping to communicate our beliefs or passion or declaration of unity. There are signs to allow us the opportunity to self-educate or pay homage lest no one forget the real story. Lately, we have a new category for signs similar to the rules but merely policed by societal judgment.  Sadly, I get it. The whole gamut of signs that had to be cranked out to immediately communicate the new way things gotta work around here if we’re going to be ok. Due to shipment limitations, please allow one pack…
Heather
March 29, 2020
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Stop Breaking the Boomers

I believe that starting today, the President should be able to approve any and all marketing plans for products that target our senior citizens as consumers. The specific advertising categories are drugs, unsound financial gimmicks or any service that uses fear and panic as the tactic for a call to action. Here's my why story to support that statement. Like, what the hell is this add about Heaven? Watch this - I couldn't believe it. https://youtu.be/Y-GIlSVpK-c These commercials run across all cable networks during the day. It's also the most affordable time to buy ad placements so if you're targeting seniors, you have impressive margins of return. Catch the Price is Right or Judge Judy sometime. You'll see. What bothers…
Heather
March 17, 2020
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Oh, give me a home.

If you’re a buffalo, where you're born determines your qualityof life. I think they're Bison, actually? Bison Wild Wings just doesn't have that ring to it though. If you’re born in Yellowstone, you’re only threat ispossibly getting struck by a car. Live long and Prosper. If you’re born on a buffalo farm in Iowa, well, It may be tight spaces and facing amidlife meat cleaver. If you’re a cow born in India, you wear jewelry and have theright of way on all streets. You're cherished and sacred.  Sidebar - There are more than 400 McDonald's in India. How does that work?  If you’re a cow born in America, you’re what’s for dinner. And drink. And collagen. And rugs. It is…
Heather
March 15, 2020
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Can you feel it coming in the air tonight

Pretty surreal and validating experience flying this past week. Que the Phil Collins Drum solo. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8wwJUZCfpuI I must say, having round trip airplane rows to myself and a Chicago layover both ways with no lines was quite refreshing. Having the American Airlines ticketing staff call me by name while I was still at the kiosk was a memorable customer experience. “Hey, Heather - I’m printing your bag tag over here, you can bring it on over.” Well, thank you very much, Shari. I appreciate that. TSA checkpoint number 3 (Kiosk 1, bag checker 2) was all officers. And me. Since this was a personal trip, I had no laptops or baggies of little fluids to whip out with my shoes…
Heather
March 11, 2020
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Yeah, Me Too. Same.

I think enough time has passed to return back to the original common phrase for agreeing with something that someone else says. Yeah, me too. After all, it’s as common of language as the basic aisle chatter at Kroger: How are you? Fine, and you? Good to see you. Yeah, me too. From basic acquaintance to friend to family to a stranger in line at the store - The ‘understood’ exchange of words that happen when you take a moment to interact with someone who speaks your language is in a state of pause and rethink a response. I fully get and support the intention behind the repurposing of the agreeable salutation with a hashtag in front of it. The…
Heather
February 29, 2020
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Stop and Go Day

Today I drove to an appt that’s on the other side of the closest city. So it’s a clip but I enjoy her keeping it real with me about working harder on getting healthy. I’ve plateaued recently and have really felt like writing for myself and for work and since I only have so much evening time, I recently began blowing off physical activity for more screen time. Ugh. I digress. She gave me the kick in the butt I needed. In my written plan of numbers, she walks me thru it and says- “Ok, let’s review. One. Count calories again and get back to 1100..” she hesitates. Looks me in the eye and compromises with herself, “ok make it…
Heather
February 20, 2020
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Let’s talk about poop

There seem to be more game-changers in our life now than any generation before us. Or are there? We still say new inventions are the best thing since sliced bread so maybe every age has game-changers to talk about around the water cooler. Here's a twist on one game-changer that takes the ewww out of poo. Let’s forget inventions like flying, driving, television and the internet. Those are world-changers. I'm talking game-changers. I’m talking about hacks you didn’t know you needed until someone showed it to you or told you about it. No way, nuh-uh… because it takes a lot these days to get us to look up from our phones and be pleasantly surprised about something. tell me more...…
Heather
February 17, 2020
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Overthinking the Repercussions of Accepting a Status Quo Mindset.

Do I give in or get back up? Chicken or the egg? I’ve really been trying to crack my own code. Get out of my head. Practice the repetition needed to recondition my mind to healthier habits while trying to give up the unhealthy ones. I'm digging deep to find ways to relax, reflect the conundrum of whether I create more problems or simply point out theories of why we accept certain things as, well, acceptable. With or without merit. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YabW4B5Wjwk It's a sailboat, right? You know, a little R&R. Rest and Reflect. I figure I may be missing a treadmill here or there, not make my steps for the day and hindering my progress to that ultimate bod, but…
Heather
February 11, 2020
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This ain’t Your Momma’s Broken Heart 2.020

‪ ‪In reflection, I think it would be so cool if Miranda Lambert read little ole me’s story post of this idea. I felt inspired to create a flip side to that beautiful vinyl. Here’s my opportunity thought: I relate to 100% of her intentions within every song she‬ writes solo or in group. Whatever her issue, anyone can relate to the pain of that. That’s why she’s awesome anyway. It shows.  What if she tweaked the context of the main lyrics to my all time favorite , “Ain’t my Momma’s Broken Heart” to “Just Trust My Momma’s broken heart” as a dedication to special women who’ve got a lot of stuff going on right now so that the overarching…
Heather
February 5, 2020
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Mmmmm … Matches

Since our daughter grew up and moved out, I’ve been the single woman in my home. Meaning I live with my husband, two teenage sons, a challenged male puggle, and a high maintenance female little white dog that doesn’t count because she needs to calm down to qualify as my girl which happens barely often enough to try and help her overcome her type A hole syndrome. So imagine my surprise when - for the third time since the weekend - I’ve come home to my candles lit. The men in my life are lighting them. Which is new. This is new. Who knew? Sure, I still appreciate Scentsy - especially the Cinderella scent. Thanks to my daughter, it’s my…
Heather
February 4, 2020
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Connecting with Content – another Case Study

I appreciated how Brie, June Diane’s character in Grace and Frankie has been since day 1. I’ll admit, without her I think I would’ve given up around S5 E2. Oh, wait, I did. It wasn’t until I took a day off-grid to write much-needed content for work that I flipped it on as my typical think tank background noise. I typically capture the gist of a series to know the overarching crescendo of it. I can always tell how captivating a show is by how much I accomplish with it distracting me. It helps spark so much side road rabbit hole thinking and decipherings. It's still just enough that if Mark ever wants to watch a series I played as…
Heather
February 3, 2020
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The tragedy of Kobe brings Hollywood together.

Today, as we hear the sad, awful news that the VP of the NBA, Kobe Bryant tragically passed away in a helicopter accident, we can take comfort in knowing that his passing has not been in vain. It's caused a country of healing. It's caused the largest forgiveness movement of Hollywood's biggest proponents of burning every man who ever had a questionable action against women. The tragedy has allowed us to move past #8 Kobe, and focus on #24 Kobe. We truly are becoming a united society of partisanship. Like for instance, John Legend jumped out for the R Kelly documentary to explain why he regrets profiting off of partnerships with him as he was unaware of what his behaviors…
Heather
January 26, 2020
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Will Gen Z save us all? Thank Boomers.

I’m classified as Generation X. Raised by Boomers. Raising Generation Z teens. Here's my story as to why they may just be the saving Grace we need. But don't tell them - they've got enough things to worry about right now. So what do these titles mean? I’m stereotyped into a certain generation, just like Millennials and those observant Gen Z kidderoos that are growing up way too fast for this happy nester. As any person in the midst of their generation’s wet blanket of assumptions goes,  I went through my formative young career days being told by the media and bought-in boomers that I was ‘grunge’ and a ‘slacker’ and probably not going to be a contributor to a…
Heather
January 21, 2020
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Do You Still Clip Coupons and Buy Newspapers? Yeah, Me Neither.

We had a Sunday paper on our doorstep this morning. I figure they must be doing some free thing to drum up some New Year subscribers? Who knows but when I used to get the Sunday paper I did like the flyers and coupons. Today, even though I know people who could be on extreme couponing and probably win, I think of what it would take for me to 1. Subscribe to the big city Sunday paper and 2. Cut out coupons and take them to use. Why did we get one? I still looked, though. What would it take to subscribe to a newspaper? My Answer: They have to change the revenue model, total format layout, distribution system, and…
Heather
January 5, 2020
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The New Resolution – A 2020 Revolution?

It's that time again. The one time of the year you get very serious about a fresh start. Even more so when it's a new decade to boot. Here's three breakouts of what resolutions to consider for the best decade every. The first part is the Resolution marketing we're bombarded with and our role in it. the second part is a resolution commitment and being in the skin you're in, and finally, part 3, if you're still reading and committed by that point, is about women who skin shame other women - a challenge for the biggest resolution of all. Part 1: The Resolution Market I know, it’s currently NYE and everybody is thinking about a what to change about…
Heather
December 31, 2019
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$19 a month and a free blanket

For only 63 cents a day, you can impact a life... All of these organizations' commercials, production and social proof of the need pull at every heartstring. Since they are all $19 a month and come with a free blanket, I thought It may be beneficial to combine them in one place, for free to help you pick which one. Shriners is wonderful. These kids are absolutely precious, their charity is on the 'good list' of legitimacy and their national media company does a great job. Hopefully at a significant discount. Here's hoping. Here's there statement about what the $19 does: The children in these commercials are wonderful. Oh, my heart. 'At Shriners Hospitals for Children®, stewardship is one of…
Heather
December 31, 2019
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Take a Day

My wish, hope, prayer is that you get a day that’s yours. Here’s how I started mine. A day where the only interruptions are made by you. A day where the only decisions are made by you. A day where you create something satisfying. A day where you feel something gratifying. A day where you feel validated for taking your day. A day you cut out just for you, like a thin slice of pie after everyone’s had their fill. True Days Off A day you look forward to, experiencing positive anticipation while working up to it. A day you recognize is open and block on the calendar - without any guilt. A day where you can do whatever you…
Heather
December 30, 2019
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Confrontation Constipation

We’re afraid to offend the offensive.   It’s like confrontation constipation with a touch of avoidance followed by an uneasy head nod and a forced smile. But that's not all that happens. That's just the external indicators that you are internalizing whatever on-no-you-didn't thing that just happened while you keep it together. That's ok though, take a moment. Breathe. Contemplating your reaction allows you to process everything happening around you and whether it's worth a reaction or not. Doing something so that it doesn't stay inside, festering like gigantic, explosive turd fecal-ing it's way from your brain to all extremities slowly but surely tearing at your arteries and clogging your inner core. No, not really. You gotta get it out.…
Heather
December 28, 2019
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Finding Free Adrenaline

If I were a stereotypical thrill-seeker, today I went skydiving after work. I accomplished things that gave me an adrenaline rush that kept rolling. It doesn’t change anything, but the rush is fuel for my soul. I conquered some fears that pick up every metaphoric brick I let fall away and put it back where it belongs. I got this. Lol. I almost forgot. Today I cold-called the president of a company to pitch an idea I have to diversify his revenue stream without investing in new machinery. Random, right? I actually wrote the presentation more than two months ago and tested it on a few trusted, objective people from different relationship circles in my life with flying colors. Why…
Heather
December 17, 2019
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Words of Wisdom from Jessica Lange

If you didn’t already love every beautiful, tormented, multi-layered, strong and sometimes very ill and wretchedly fearsome articulate character portrayed by Jessica Lange, you’re going to love her much more when you read her wisdom playing the greatest role ever - her life story, unscripted. These quotes remind me that to live a life of extraordinary, pretend like Jessica Lange is watching you - and cheering you on. you wouldn’t want to let her down, after all. Here’s just a few gems of honest vulnerability by the queen herself. Enjoy! Acceptance and tolerance and forgiveness, those are life-altering lessons. For me, nothing has ever taken precedence over being a mother and having a family and a home. At a certain…
Heather
November 19, 2019
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7 Ways to Fight Anxiety and Reduce Stress

We don’t talk about anxiety enough. We don’t learn how to identify it, where it comes from or how we internalize it. We can take pills to suppress it, and before I get any further into this story – I fully understand that some people biologically, hormonally – require medication. I’m not trained or schooled in any medical way either. I’ve just taken a lot of pills to try and fix me as a teenager and I’ve required them for anxiety after all three of my children were born. I haven't taken any since, and I think this is why. This is my story and what has been the best peace I’ve experienced in my constant thinking, high expectation, idea…
Heather
November 7, 2019